Lesson 7: Family........

Family is suppose to be the greatest gift of all, weather or not you feel that way, that's how it's suppose to be. This doesn't mean that it's going to feel this way. Family is suppose to have your back. Family is suppose to be there. Not hating each other. Standing by one another, side by side just as an army fighting for their nation would. We're to fight for each other against what's wrong, stand up for each other. This is what I used to believe.
Now, I understand it's not always going to be this way. Some family will always be there for each other in some way, though they will fight and argue with each, disagree at times, they'll be there. Sometimes you can't stand up for one of them though. Sometimes you have to just let things go, let things blow over and not take a side. I believe this especially when fighting involves people you love on both sides. I don't agree that you can blame all family problems on just one member of that family though. It takes two to tango, and that works when you're speaking of family disputes, or any altercation for that matter. It's not a fight if the opponent doesn't swing back, it's a beating.
Though every family has their quarrel's, they also have their gladsome days where everyone is happy and for the most part, carefree. Being around people we love and people who return that love always creates a greater feeling of happiness for any individual. When we're not worrying about how we look, we focus more on what we're doing. I will say it doesn't hurt to put on some appealing or at least appropriate paraphernalia, looking decent and smelling good always makes a person more likeable. But if you're already around people who love you for you, that shouldn't be your main focus. And family that appreciates you for being yourself won't base the whole day on that minor detail. All I'm saying I guess is it's easier to be comfortable around people you love, you shouldn't have to put on a face for them.

Families do work in mysterious ways. One day they'll get upset with you over something so insignificant and they next, they'll be the same loving people they were two days ago. And it's normal to have at least one person in your family who is controlling, one whose competitive, and the one or few in-laws who are complete schmo's and you don't feel like being around them. But you usually learn to live with them.
I guess all I can really say is there aren't a lot of people out there these days that you can put a lot of trust into. Who you can really say love you and will be there for you and who have been there for you. Your family are the people who you could be horrible to and eventually, if they see past your mistakes, they'll still love you. There really aren't a lot of people who you can say that about. Don't lose sight of what's right in front of you. Keep your family close, let them know they're important.

Lesson 6: Mistakes. . .

Something we can all look forward to having throughout life are mistakes. We all make them, even if we don't admit to them when we do make them. We can always fix them though and some people don't see that, or when they do, they don't do anything to fix it. I admit that I realize my mistakes but I still haven't done anything to make them better. I still mess up. And all of us will mess up more than once. I believe though that there comes a time when we need to figure out what we're doing and figure out how to make things better for our selves. No one can take better care of you than you. That's what it comes down to is everything is up to us. We make a life for ourselves, we fix and make our own mistakes, we depend on ourselves.
Without mistakes in our lives, we would be lost. That is my honest opinion. Making mistakes teaches us things that no one else can teach us. We can be told or warned, but it's not the same effect as learning on your own through your own troubles. Sure, making mistakes always has a person feeling amiss, but we learn to cope, because in the end we are benefiting ourselves.
If you make a mistake and you know you did, think about it. Think about how to fix it and what it is teaching you in the long run. When you know what you did wrong and can help yourself fix it, it's just another step in the direction of responsibility and in my opinion, bettering yourself.