Lesson 5: Life, MY opinion

The road of life is always unclear. No matter who walks it. You have no idea as to what obstacles you'll face, or how much fun life just might be. Or if you'll ever feel pain and misery. You will never know if you'll find true love, or if you will ever complete your dreams. You will never know if you can truly trust someone, or if people are even real in the first place. You'll never know if you'll end up walking through life with some one who is real, that you can trust. You'll never know what is really thought about you. Is it good or is it bad? So many things are unclear in life. There are very few things that are certain. One thing that I believe is that your destiny was set for you even before you walked this Earth. You may think that you know your destiny and then try to change it, but I believe that whatever you do, if you can do it, then it was meant to be done. You may not believe or even understand this, but I do. This is what I truly believe.

Though some people may not believe this to be certain in life, two things are. One is that you are certain to have only one true dependent in life. That is yourself. The other thing that you are certain to is death, and to die alone.

I understand......

I now understand what I hadn't before. I use to think that people who cut themselves were so stupid...Like it was just for attention, which in some cases, it is. But, I now understand why most people do it. It's a matter of them not being able to take mental pain but being able to take physical pain. When I say mental pain, I mean things such as bad emotions or even depression. Some people just don't want to face their problems or their pains, so they cut themselves instead. Watching the blood trickle down their arms, as if watching all of their pains wash away. Like they shouldn't have a care in the world anymore. But though they may think it's good for them, it could lead to so much worse. If someone were to cut them self every time something bad happened, and it was only a small problem, imagine what their going to do if something so horrendous happened that they couldn't bare it. They wouldn't just slightly cut themselves. They would slit their entire wrist.......

I just had a wakeup call.......

Sometimes people are oblivious to everything. Sometimes, their not. Some people litter, some people clean it up. Some people are more conservative. Some just don't give a damn. I believe it's time we start caring about others and our surrounding! The world takes life one day at a time, and for some of us, that's a good decision because we're not even sure if we'll see tomorrow. But the whole world doing this? Even if you say you don't, you kind of do. Look at this war we're in for example. Why are we still fighting? No one thinks about tomorrow, and when I say that, I mean no one thinks about the future. What about the kids of our soldiers? Or what about the kids of Iraq's soldiers? You kill today, that's one more kid who's parent less tomorrow. You don't think!
Everyone is always saying that us kids are the future of tomorrow, or something like that. So why would you jeopardize that? Sometimes, even the smallest of things can affect the way we think or feel. What if it all turns bad? I mean our thoughts or how we feel. What if by just one of our closest friend or even our parent dieing caused us to go into a complete meltdown and all of our happy thoughts turn into angry, depressive ones? That will corrupt a kid, or even an adult.
People these days don't care enough about how others feel . They don't care about how certain actions will affect others! Think about the future. Think about your kids. Do you really want to grow up like some countries where they have children learn to use riffles when their only about five or six just to prepare them for war? Do you really want this world we live in to be just filled with hate, discrimination, and ungrateful people? Would you really subdue your kids to that? Do you really want to?
I know I just asked a lot of questions, but if I don't ask them, who will? Really think about this, that is, if you actually care at all about something besides yourself.

Lesson 4: Open up.....

How many people just keep their problems and emotions to their selves? And how many of you that do, feel like you are about to explode into tears thinking that you will feel better afterwards? I bet almost all of you do....But I don't think that that is the problem. Maybe you just need to find someone you can trust, someone you can confide in and tell all of your secrets to or tell them how you really feel or your opinions about things. Someone that won't judge you, won't laugh at your ideas or at you in general. Finding someone like this will probably be hard for a lot of people. Especially for those who don't trust easily.
When people begin to open up, most of the time, they begin to feel a little better. To me, it feels so mush better when I'm able to just talk to someone. You don't feel like you're carrying a huge weight on your shoulders. You can relax a bit more.
I have maybe one person that I trust like this. One person that I could tell anything to and that knows just about everything about me. This person is a family member. Maybe that's where you might want to start. Someone inside your family is more familiar to you then anyone else so it should naturally be easier for you to talk to them. (Unless you have a bad surrounding or bad life at home) When you talk to someone inside your family, it should be someone you can trust with anything and that this person won't tell anyone else what you told them, NO MATTER WHAT IT IS.

If you're one of those people who someone else feels that they can talk to, don't blow that. It's not always easy for people to talk to others. It should be a privilege to you that someone actually feels that they trust you enough to they point where they tell you how they feel, whats wrong, their dreams, or their secrets. Even if you don't think so, it's true. A lot of people aren't very trusting when they get older, so this especially applies to young adults such as middle schoolers or high schoolers.
Who talks to you is important, and who you talk to is important. Treat others as if you care. More people will open up to you. And the more you treat others as if you care, they more they get comfortable with opening up and the better they'll feel.

Lesson 3: Trust...

I know it's something really hard to do and I, of all people, can not tell you to trust some one. This is because I don't trust people very easily. But it is something you will have to learn to do in life, eventually. Especially if you are a parent...Trust your kids, please. You really need to let your kids know that you trust them or they will always lie to you. If they don't believe you trust them, they'll think that they're not allowed to do anything so they'll lie about what ever it is they're really doing.
Trust is the most important thing in ANY relationship. Parent to child, friend to friend, or boyfriend to girlfriend and the opposite, girlfriend to boyfriend. (Same sex relationships, too) It's just that trust is the key to staying in a good relationship. If you trust your child, they are least likely to lie to you. If you trust your lover or bf/gf, then they're more likely to stay with you. You can't always being accusing each other of everything. It will just lead to a bad ending.
When you don't trust your child, they won't trust you. They'll think that they can't talk to you about any of their problems. And then, sooner or later, if you let your problems escalate enough, your kid will end up moving out when they're eighteen and won't come back. Or worse, they'll try to get emancipated when they're sixteen which most likely means they really won't ever come back.
Without trust, you pretty much have nothing. Just relax, and even if you don't trust that person yet, don't make it so noticeable. I'm saying all this because I don't want other peoples relationships with others to end up like some of mine did, and one of mine still. Keep trust in your relationships...Eventually, it really will help.

Lesson 2: What other people think...What other people say....

Don't let what other people think get to you. It may seem hard, but just blow it off. It doesn't matter what they think. If you care about what they think, and it's something bad, you're just going to end up with low self-esteem and think bad about yourself constantly. You don't want that.
If you're one of those people who talk crap, or discriminate, behind someones back, or even to their face, stop! I bet that not one of you think that the mental illness Depression is as bad or as serious as it is. When you're upset, don't say you're depressed. Your not, and you probably don't even know what depression really is.


INFO ON DEPRESSION
Everyone has ups and downs in life, but some people have more downs. When your downs outweigh the ups, it causes depression. Depression can affect your life seriously. It will cause problems with your everyday activities like eating, sleeping, working, and getting along with other people. A way you know if you're depressed, is if you experienced the previous symptoms for more than a few weeks. Depression can really affect physical appearance as well as your mental health. After being depressed for a long period of time, you begin not to care about your appearance. Why should you? Is what you'll think. You're not happy so why get all fancied up and put on your face every morning. Depression is really serious, it affects an estimated 19 million American adults every year, almost twice as many women (6.5%) than men (3.3%).




So you see, don't take to heart what other people say to you. And if you're one of those people who discriminate or say things behind other's backs, don't. If you take to heart what other people say, you'll begin thinking the same and cause depression upon yourself.If you're the one who discriminates, you're the one causing other's depression. If you don't take kindness seriously, at least take depression seriously.


discrimination----->lack of self confidence
lack of self confidence----->depression
depression----->pain and misery
pain and misery----->can equal DEATH


If you descriminate, you could be the cause of someones death. Don't be a murderer! Think before you open your mouth.

Lesson 1: What goes around...

It is such a cruel world out there. You have your thief's, your gang-bangers, your pedifiles, and your murderers. Their are so many bad things in life...But, there are good people in the world. And as long as you remember a few things, you'll be one of those good people.
You have all heard the saying "What goes around, comes around." Well it's true. This means another saying that you've probably heard, "Treat others the way you want to be treated." It all goes together. It's all true too, so listen. If you don't want to be treated like a piece of crap, then don't treat others like they are. Don't think of yourself as a better being because you think you're prettier or smarter. Think of others as your equals. You know what, no one likes a stuck up bitch, excuse my language, but you all understand what I mean by that. The only people who will ever like people like that, are people who are already like that.
If you treat someone with respect, you'll be respected back. Even if they don't respect you at first, respect them, or at least be good to them. Don't play their game by being a "snot" right back to them. That means they're getting what they want. And eventually, it's going to come down to them wanting to fight you. You know why? Because it gets them attention.
Some people aren't like this though. Some people treat others like that because they were treated bad at a younger age. I'm sure though, that given enough time and enough respect and kindness, anyone could change. Even if you don't think it's possible, I believe it is. This is because I changed. It may have taken a while, but I did. But you know what? I changed the way I thought and judged other people because I was being treated the same way I was treating others. This might not work for everyone, but it worked for me. Just remember though, What goes around, comes around!