I know it's something really hard to do and I, of all people, can not tell you to trust some one. This is because I don't trust people very easily. But it is something you will have to learn to do in life, eventually. Especially if you are a parent...Trust your kids, please. You really need to let your kids know that you trust them or they will always lie to you. If they don't believe you trust them, they'll think that they're not allowed to do anything so they'll lie about what ever it is they're really doing.
Trust is the most important thing in ANY relationship. Parent to child, friend to friend, or boyfriend to girlfriend and the opposite, girlfriend to boyfriend. (Same sex relationships, too) It's just that trust is the key to staying in a good relationship. If you trust your child, they are least likely to lie to you. If you trust your lover or bf/gf, then they're more likely to stay with you. You can't always being accusing each other of everything. It will just lead to a bad ending.
When you don't trust your child, they won't trust you. They'll think that they can't talk to you about any of their problems. And then, sooner or later, if you let your problems escalate enough, your kid will end up moving out when they're eighteen and won't come back. Or worse, they'll try to get emancipated when they're sixteen which most likely means they really won't ever come back.
Without trust, you pretty much have nothing. Just relax, and even if you don't trust that person yet, don't make it so noticeable. I'm saying all this because I don't want other peoples relationships with others to end up like some of mine did, and one of mine still. Keep trust in your relationships...Eventually, it really will help.
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